Why does it happen when you take any decision for yourself people starts avoiding you. Is it wrong to think about yourself we always think about others sometimes family, sometimes friends and sometimes your colleagues. Our every decision is influenced by these three bodies. Why don’t we have such freedom to take any decision only for our self. There would always be someone who would unhappy with you due to your decision why does it always happen. Why cant we make everyone happy. Why don’t people understand and agree. If a person want to marry with is own choice there would be someone in the family who will not agree with you. When you want to be alone or want to do something different there would be some friends who would not like your suggestion, When you want to leave an organization your peers would not like you, you will become enemy in their eyes who used to say you are the star for them. Why does it happen. Can’t a person do anything just for himself or herself. Why can’t those people let the person go happily. Most of you will say don’t care about the people who says what to you and do what you want to do in life just don’t care about them. It is true if we want to move on in life we would do the same but somewhere in heart we would have a feeling that someone is not happy and we can not do anything for him or her. It hurts little bit but we ignore this feeling and do what seems good for us. But today why I am thinking all this… how does people change how does there behavior change just only for one reason that you are thinking about yourself you have dared to think about you. How does people forget all that which you have done for them, just in a single second their behavior changes. I want to understand one thing if a person likes you , cares about you think about you he should be with you and he should respect your decision, yes for a time being it will create a little problem to those people for whom you were support but they should not behave in a way that it hurts you. In my view those people to whom you are dear should let you go happily they should have such understanding that yes it will create a problem for me, I will mange but it is the matter of his happiness. They do not understand, if they would start avoiding you they are losing their worth because the person who is taking the decision for himself have some gratitude and respect for you in his eyes because he knows you have done a lot for him whether he says or not he knows. Once the people start avoiding you because of your decision you start changing your perception about them and all the gratitude and respect demolish in that fraction of second.
It is natural we can not change it, we can not make everyone happy in the life. We have to take some harsh decisions for the betterment of our future. This not a new situation for me everyone somewhere in life has to face this situation. To-morrow I may be the person who is standing in the crowd and there would be someone whose decision will affect my life, I may behave like others but I would try to remember this time and will think about his or her happiness. At least I will not like to be a hiccup in someone’s happiness. I would always remember life doesn’t end people come play their role and goes. It is possible when I do not expect any thing from anyone. One thing I got to know expectation is the problem of every sorrow. You got hurt when you expect something from someone. Just tried to be neutral in every situation and whenever you are in any problem think, this is your problem so you have to search the solution yourself. Do not hurt those people by whom the problem has come, because it will not make any difference in their life, It will just project your image as a selfish person who is not ready to accept others happiness.
